Psychotherapy in person in North London and Online

No relationship is without its challenges. Each of us seeks happiness, fulfilment, and a sense of belonging. To achieve this, we seek partners who we expect to help us. At the same time, we promise the other half(s) to do the same. As life goes on, we face the hard truth that our expectations are far from the reality we face. We grow sad, unfulfilled, and left feeling lonely. Conflict happens, sex is not good anymore, desire vanishes, and life becomes a harrowing quest for what we would like to be. 

We are seldom taught the skills and tools necessary to make the relationship succeed. We continue to look for the best ways to strengthen our relationship. 

Throughout this ongoing process, some challenges may trap the relationship in cycles of perceptions, emotions, and behaviours. This leads to frustration and causes hope for the ideal relationship to fade.

There is no secret, ultimate method or magic wands to sort this out. 

Creating the safe and controlled space to communicate, to show expectations, to learn each others most intimate, hidden and often unaware thoughts, we will be able to understand what have gone wrong, how you and your partners position in terms of the relationship's developmental stage, what are the unmet needs of each other, and how your partners can enhance their empathic understanding of your needs of togetherness versus individuation and life fulfilment in general.

Using multiple relationship theories, models, and state-of-the-art research, Relationship and Couples Therapy can help you understand the couple's dynamics and guide the relationship toward the bespoke direction you want.

We do this while we explore tools and skills that foster greater communication, empathy, and understanding, and help us identify unmet needs and bring into awareness the partners' backgrounds, how we got here, and where we want to go together. This fosters personal growth and, ultimately, strengthens your relationship.

I use the Gottman Method Couples Therapy as the biggest contributor to my work. 

I specialise in supporting clients, couples and relationships with a multiplicity of challenges, from unidentical relationship goals, communication difficulties, adjustment difficulties, affairs and infidelities, conflict and many others.

Improving Communication

Support couples in learning to communicate their needs and hopes, and discussing communication patterns, such as high-conflict or conflict-avoidant styles.

Addressing Common Issues

Work around specific difficulties, such as lack of intimacy, sexual desire discrepancies, non-consensual and/or consensual non-monogamy, jealousy, family of origin conflicts, financial concerns, managing significant life events, affairs or infidelities.

Building Connection

Facilitate couples’ movement past being stuck in cycles of perceptions, emotions, and behaviours, and instead promote growth towards higher levels of maturity, happiness, and fulfilment.