Psychotherapy in person in North London and Online

No relationship is without its challenges. Each of us seeks happiness, fulfilment, and a sense of belonging. To achieve this, we look for partners we expect will help us. At the same time, we promise the other half(s) to do the same. As life goes on, we face the hard truth that our expectations are far from the reality we face. We become sad, unfulfilled, and left with a sense of loneliness. Conflict happens, sex is not good anymore, desire vanishes, and life becomes a harrowing quest for what we would like to be. 

We are seldom taught the skills and tools necessary to make the relationship succeed. We continue to look for the best ways to strengthen our relationship. 

Throughout this ongoing process, some challenges may cause the relationship to become stuck in cycles of perceptions, emotions, and behaviours. This leads to frustration and causes hope for the ideal relationship to fade.

There is no secret, ultimate method or magic wands to sort this out. 

Creating the safe and controlled space to communicate, to show expectations, to learn each others most intimate, hidden and often unaware thoughts, we will be able to understand what have gone wrong, how you and your partners position in terms of the relationship's developmental stage, what are the unmet needs of each other, and how your partners can enhance their empathic understanding of your needs of togetherness versus individuation and life fulfilment in general.

Using multiple relationship theories, models, and state-of-the-art research, Relationship and Couples Therapy can facilitate understanding of the couple's dynamics and promote the bespoke direction you are eager for the relationship to take.

We do this while we explore tools and skills that bring greater communication, empathy, and understanding, and help us explore unmet needs and bring into awareness the partners where we come from, how we got here, and where we want to get together. This fosters personal growth and, ultimately, the development of your relationship.

I specialise in supporting clients, couples and relationships with a multiplicity of challenges, from unidentical relationship goals, communication difficulties, adjustment difficulties, affairs and infidelities, conflict and many others.

Improving Communication

Support couples in learning to communicate their needs and hopes, and discussing communication patterns, such as high-conflict or conflict-avoidant styles.

Addressing Common Issues

Work around specific difficulties, such as lack of intimacy, sexual desire discrepancies, non-consensual and/or consensual non-monogamy, jealousy, family of origin conflicts, financial concerns, managing significant life events, affairs or infidelities.

Building Connection

Facilitate couples’ movement past being stuck in cycles of perceptions, emotions, and behaviours, and instead promote growth towards higher levels of maturity, happiness, and fulfilment.